Author Archives: Ritu Singh

About Ritu Singh

She was Head Mistress at Tulsi Nagar, Indore Branch. She has several years of experience in education at reputed schools in India and abroad.

“I AM HERE AND I WANT THIS” – Tantrum King

Becoming parents requires no degree; also it does not guarantee our understanding the psychology of the little ones. Sometimes we are so baffled when small pin like situations arise and we are in a fix. How to deal with this one? One among the many is

“Children seeking attention and throwing tantrums”

Humans have the longest relationship nourishing period; it stretches according to the culture of the country. The moment a child arrives to the parent, it becomes the centre of attraction for them. Then starts the fussing, loving and nurturing part. Do we also teach the children to play by themselves, to be with themselves? This turns into a habit by the time a child turns 2 years old. For them we are always around, we are always there, their insecurities are covered up and their desires fulfilled. In the process of readying them for the society, we start a reverse process of denials, saying no, don’t, afterwards. This initiates a different problem in child seeking our uninterrupted attention by throwing tantrum.

Here are some helpful tips to deal with this:

  1. Health: First and foremost check the vitals. See, if the child has his needs taken care of. Whether or not he is either, hungry, thirsty, sick or tired. Once this is done move to other steps of how to deal with it.
  2. Ignore and Walk away: It seems to be an awkward way when we think about it. “Is this the way? “But believe me it works. It is the first step to introduce them to their own selves and not to seek attention all the time. By doing this they come to know “This doesn’t work”. Also, it gives them time to work on their emotions.
  3. Avert / Act silly: This works wonders. Just distract them towards something else from their immediate focus of attention. Point out to something else, show them something interesting, tell them a secret, and sing them a song. Innocent minds can be distracted easily. Act silly, topple over, fall down, just anything to distract. Practice the trick and OH! It can be so much easier.
  4. Stay Calm as You Seek: Is this not what it is all about. You desire for the child to stay calm when the situation is making him/her to throw tantrum. Tell the child let’s reason it out later. If you start yelling and shouting, then the child may never be able to understand. What is this fuss all about as you are reciprocating in the same way? Be the role model in displaying the calm and coolness in all the adverse situations. Love them when they display themselves as the role modelled representations of your coolness and calmness.
  5. Don’t give In: After all this is why you took the first decision of saying “no”. Suddenly, after the tantrum it cannot become right. Also, once you give in the child has discovered a new way of getting his wish fulfilled. Be careful, either say yes at the start if it does not matter in the child’s development, but do not change your decision to “yes” once said no.
  6. Tickle: This works wonderfully well. I have tried. Every time I need my son to listen to me and comply I tickle. It actually ends a complex situation on a positive note. Also, who can resist tickling? It also introduces them to laughter and smiles. And hormone to help them to do so works its wonders.
  7. The temper behind the tantrum:   Recognize it; try to remove the child from the source of the temper. Encourage them to hold it a bit longer, promise them incentives if they do so. Tell them, they grow a bit stronger, bigger, and mature if they do so. Promise them stories, together time, a play whatever interests them. Treat them as equal when they are able to deal with it.
  8. Attention time: Why not? Just five minutes of absolute positive attention time to them may help them resolve their own feelings and understand your point of view of saying no…Or other child’s reaction. Just you and your child without distractions, sharing, communication, love and care. Just pure pleasure.

All of the above works. One or the other at one of the time. It is just us learning and making them learn in the process.

Note: The author is Head Mistress at Tulsi Nagar, Indore Branch. She has several years of experience in education at reputed schools in India and abroad.

The views expressed here are personal.

हिंदी अनुवाद: http://www.gyankriti.com/blog/tantrum-hindi/

Development of Multiple Intelligence at Gyankriti

Gyankriti aims at developing

“The eight multiple intelligence” – as defined by Howard Gardener

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Linguistic: 

Deals with written and spoken words. Children with high verbal -linguistic intelligence display a facility with words and languages. They are typically good at reading,writing,telling stories and memorizing words along with dates. They tend to learn best by reading,taking notes,listening ,and by discussing and debating about what they have learned.

Gyankriti linguistics will be skilled to express themselves. They will be able to tell “Nanhi nanhi batein”, those small secrets around which their lives revolve at this age. Their enthusiasm,curiosity,love,inhibitions all will get an expression . They will be more aware.

Naturalistic:

Deals with nurturing and relating information to one’s natural surroundings. This includes classifying natural forms such as animal and plant species ,and rocks and mountain types:and the applied knowledge of nature in farming,mining etc. Children with a strong naturalistic intelligence also displays organizing ability.

All gyankritians are going to be made sensitive to nature and their surroundings. And why not….It is the nature that keeps us grounded to our roots. It implicates that all the beings are equal. At gyankriti we aim at making them known to the social and environmental grace granted to us.

Intra personal:

Deals with introspective and self reflective capabilities. Children with strong interpersonal intelligence have a deep understanding of the self -their strengths and weakness.

At Gyankriti, converging their vision towards their own self, introspection,making them known to their own negatives will be aimed at. And what else do we need as human beings ,if we learn to do this. This is the first step towards self improvement.

Interpersonal:

Deals with the ability to interact with others. In theory, Children who have strong interpersonal intelligence tends to be extroverts, they are sensitive to others mood feelings temperaments and motivations and display an ability to co-operate in order to work as part of a group. They communicate effectively and empathize easily with others and maybe either leaders or followers they typically learn best by working with others and often enjoy discussion and debate. 

With the wonderful changes taking place in the Indian society. Children need to be trained to be more humane, to love each other, to keep others before one’s own self. Sochiye , If at Gyankriti we are able to create such enhanced values in our children ,then how beautiful they will make our society.

Bodily -Kinesthetic:

Children who have a bodily – kinesthetic intelligence seem to learn better by involving  muscular movement ( hands on , actual lab experiments ), and generally good at physical activities such as sports or dance. They may enjoy acting or performing and in general they are good at building and making things. They often learn best by doing something physically other then by reading or hearing about it.

In today,s world children should be told about how to keep their body fit at a very early age. The change in today’s lifestyle demands it. We also know “HEALTH IS WEALTH”. So, to gain this wealth this intelligence needs to be triggered and fanned. Let’s do it.

Spatial:

Deals with special judgement and the ability to visualize the minds eye.

Careers which suit those with this type of intelligence include artist, designers and architects. A spatial person is also good with puzzles. The four parts of spatial awareness are distance,form(shape),direction,position(in relationships to others) Spatial awareness is the knowledge of where you are in relationship to other people and objects in your environment. To develop spatial awareness children learn concepts ,such as

Musical:

Deals with sensitivity to sounds rhythms, tones and music. Language skills are typically highly developed in those whose base intelligence is musical in addition, they will sometimes use songs or rhythms to learn. They have sensitivity to rhythm, pitch, meter, tone, melody or timber.

WORLD has music all round. All natural sounds have a certain rhythm to themselves, We only need musical ears to appreciate it.

At Gyankriti we aim to make all the ears musical., to be able to hear the music of silence, sound of the ripples generated, music in the chirping of the birds,

Logical – Mathematical:

Deals with logic, abstractions, reasoning and numbers. A person with this intelligence may display, apart from traditional mathematical abilities, reasoning capabilities, recognizing abstract patterns, scientific thinking & investigation, to ability to perform complex calculations.

AHHH…. the world is so logical these days ,and what will one do if our children are unable to keep this pace. Great scientists like Einstein are great not only for their inventions ,but also for their unique brain developments. They could appreciate a piano piece as well as a formula. KAASH… we have places where this kind of environment could be generated for the development of both the hemispheres of the brain. At Gyankriti , our logo represents us. LOGIC and CREATIVITY is what we stand for.

Note: The author is Head Mistress at Tulsi Nagar, Indore Branch. She has several years of experience in education at reputed schools in India and abroad.

The views expressed here are personal.